Stop telling women that we should find ourselves beautiful and that we should love ourselves when you are standing right there, judging us on how our knees look in short skirts and how prominent our boobs are in a sweater and how much makeup we are or are not wearing.
Instead of us working harder on “love your body” and “find your inner beauty”, the rest of the world should be working harder on “stop telling women their bodies are a shameful place to live but that if they’re strong enough, they will learn to embrace that shame.”
This is my body. It’s not “beautiful”. I don’t “love it”. I don’t have to. I don’t have to have any strong feelings about my body. And whatever feelings I do have are not somehow invalid if they’re not glowing reviews.
Ken Cuccinelli, the Republican party’s nominee for governor, once cited Martin Luther King Jr. as justification for his argument that sexual relations between two people of the same gender should be illegal. E.W. Jackson, the party’s nominee for lieutenant governor, believes that gays are “degenerate” and “spiritually darkened” and will eventually destroy America. Mark Obenshain, the party’s nominee for attorney general, recently attempted to require women to contact the police within 24 hours of a miscarriage.
ladies. be careful when u wear spaghetti straps. it might distract the boys. they’ll start thinking of spaghetti. they will get hungry. they will stop at nothing to get their spaghetti.
Legit question and/or derpy pointless venting:
How does one actually ask someone out on a date? Specifically, someone you haven’t already hooked up with, cuz lulz I’ve definitely figured out how to do that…like, ok, there are a lot/ several queer women at this school who I know of, am potentially interested in, and even interact with in the context of formal queer groups…but, I don’t really know them that well and don’t have the chance to interact with them— less formally/ as friends—in other places and at other times. Is it like…actually acceptable to ask a girl out to coffee or whatever who you don’t really know that well and don’t have a non-date excuse to be hanging out with? Is that a thing people just *do* ? I mean, I feel like the obvious answer is “yes”, but…but…I dunno.. how? Is this a thing I should do? Why does the idea seem so strange/terrifying to me errgghhhh….?
And y’know, the silly thing is I know the advice I’d give me if was someone else…I’d say, “Go for it! I know relationship stuff is scary and nerve wracking, but don’t overthink it! If there’s a girl you like, you should ask her out even if you don’t know her that well; it’s worth the risk and a simple date doesn’t have to be super formal and intense; it can be casual and low-key. Plus you could miss something really great if you don’t take that chance!”
But. Even though I know/ basically believe all that stuff, it’s still….eiwjrio kl;jkelj jlk;j kljkljklj jdfkbu uggghhhh. I guess I just…really really don’t want rejection. I feel like I’ve dealt with a pretty solid amount of rejection this year, and while none of the individual instances have been particular painful or unfair…I’m sick of it. I’m fucking sick of it.